People who instinctively lend a helping hand when they see people in need of help usually get help timely when they encounter difficulties. At this time, there must be someone who appears magically and will give “the same reward 」. Good deeds will certainly derive another good deeds, which will eventually bring good rewards. This is one of the strongest chain reactions in the world. -Notes
A few days ago, I was very happy to hear that your friend Kate knew that you participated in the activity of “taking care of grandparents” in the town by chance. Before that, although I have heard a little about meaningful activities such as encouraging young people to visit the elderly in nursing homes, I still know nothing about your active participation in this matter. Unfortunately, in society, it seems that people do not pay attention to so many friendly behaviors happening in the world every day. The communication circle often emphasizes the “dark side of society” that hurts others, but ignores reports on those people and things that help others, as if those things published in newspapers will not be sold out!
I feel very happy when helping others. I really don’t understand why people don’t do this often! Even if they help others sincerely, they often have to choose the object. If the object they seek help is an irrelevant person, many people will feel embarrassed. For example, to help people with flat tires; To make seats on buses and trams; To accompany the elders who want to cross the road to cross the road and so on. In fact, what really makes people feel embarrassed is that we didn’t lend a helping hand to those in need.
Maybe you have found that no matter who is in need of help, people who instinctively lend a helping hand will usually get help timely when they encounter difficulties. At this time, there must be someone who appears magically and will give “the same reward 」. However, that is not magic or other reasons, but good deeds will certainly derive another good deeds, which will eventually attract good rewards. This is one of the strongest chain reactions in the world. In our daily life, we often meet those people who only need words to comfort this little help. Maybe they are beside you. For example, people who are old, poor, bedridden due to illness and not free all need this kind of help. But although we live in the same place with them, we often forget it or even ignore it deliberately.
When it comes to “good-neighborhoods”, your grandmother told me a touching story about a young lady in the same village. The villagers are not willing to contact with this lady. I don’t know what the reason is. In a word, she died of her husband when she was very young. A weak woman ran a poor farm and had to raise four children. She had to work hard from early morning to midnight before she could barely live.
Next door to her lived an old farmer living alone, who was ill in bed because of cancer. However, except this young mother with four children, there was no other villager, the relative of the old man, who was willing to spare some time to take care of his illness. In contrast, this neighbor who lived in distress managed to take time to cook for him even though he was busy. The old man died one year after getting her care. All of a sudden, the relatives of the old man felt good luck coming and went to the law firm without invitation. Because it is said that although the old man lived a frugal life, he still kept a considerable amount of property before his death. They thought that the property should be distributed to themselves. But they didn’t even get a penny in the end. The money, farm and other properties owned by the old man were all given to the young lady who took care of him according to the will. When the lawyer announced, all the people present gave out the sound of surprise. The old man deeply understood the hard work of this lady, and understood that she didn’t come from temporary sympathy. She had tried her best to carry out the hard care plan every day.
Needless to say, since then, this lady’s life has changed greatly. She no longer needs to work hard to support her family. Besides, for her, there is another significant change, that is, the situation that she was rejected and laughed at by the villagers in the past is no longer happening. The old man made the kindness of this lady and the fact of her efforts public because he was grateful for the kindness she finally served. Therefore, everyone naturally began to appreciate and respect her.
A person’s good deeds will be like the stories told to you now, with dramatic rewards or social appreciation, but this is rare after all. To help others, do not seek any reward, but you will feel that you have done at least a good thing after doing good deeds, thus generating a kind of self-satisfaction joy in private. If you do good because you want people to thank you or expect to be recognized by the society, then the good sincerity will also be reduced. I think, in all kinds of activities, there are so many people who devote time, energy or money to do good deeds in anonymous ways, and they don’t expect to get thanks or praise for this, this may be the reason.
I also see modern heroes that are not known to the public or eulogized by others. Many people provide their own time at all costs in order to make the whole society better. For example, in the aspect of health care, there are volunteer workers in hospitals or nursing institutions who are engaged in fund-raising activities for various medical researches such as cancer, neuropathic pain, heart and kidney; In the aspect of education, we actively support the establishment of various awards and grants for young students who gain or lose their studies without scholarships. Most of these people, their efforts were not mentioned and praised in formal occasions. They just cooperate with people in need of help and do what they think they must do. They only expect their efforts to help others and enjoy the joy of helping others.
I know your extremely meaningful behavior this time was already in the second half of your assistance, but when I learned that, I was really proud of you. You didn’t tell anyone, and didn’t want praise. It was extremely respectable to start from kindness and agree to send your little salary every month. In other words, comfort others when you need comfort; Reduce others’ sadness when you are sad; Give or share your life with others, it is the most respectable behavior.
All good deeds fully demonstrate the old saying “giving is more blessed than receiving. Philip James Bailey, a poet in the 19th century, once wrote, “Life is not time, but behavior 」. In the future, I hope you can expand your kindness. Because of the chain reaction of “the same return”, I believe you will also have a good return.
This article is selected from “lifetime advice” (a letter from a diplomat’s father to the child) translated by Sir chastfeld, Liu Shulin and Cui Lili